Breaking up is hard to do

Do you know the moment in a relationship when you start to think it isn’t going to work out? Then there’s the moment when you realize you need to break up with the person and you don’t know how to do it. Of course you know exactly how to do it, but it’s a hard thing to do. You may drag it out or make some excuses that “now isn’t the right time”. You try to find the perfect time to do it or maybe the perfect situation. But there is rarely such a scenario. In fact, it is rather the opposite, it always seems like it’s the worst time to do it.

And while most people are thinking that this only happens in love-relationships, that’s not the case.

This is the story of a young man and his boss/mentor.

Their relationship began when the boss took the young man under his wing. He needed someone to help him in his business and due to the circumstances, he hired the young man on somewhat of a whim. Ideally he was looking for someone to become his right hand man; someone he could groom to help run the company one day. But everything starts from small beginnings. So the boss started working with the young man. Unsure what to expect, he started showing the young man how his business worked and how he could help.

The young man started learning how to deal with the daily duties. While the initial tasks weren’t difficult, the systems were a mess. But he didn’t see it as a problem. It was an opportunity. He didn’t know what the finish line looked like but he knew he could help build something more tangible. He had never received training in this type of work so he would figure it out as he went along. The boss quickly warmed up to the young man. He even unintentionally acted like a business mentor. The young man helped build systems and grow the small business. It turned out to be everything that the boss wanted. The two worked closely for the next few years.

By coincidence, it turned out that their skills also complimented each other. The young man made up for the boss’ weakness and the boss helped develop the young man’s weaker skill set. After a successful working relationship, the young man decided it was time to move on. It wasn’t an easy decision as moving on would create new challenges and new risks. He had grown comfortable and fond of what he helped build. But that wasn’t enough for the young man. He would be venturing out on his own and the thought of it actually terrified him. He knew he had to do it though.

While most people would give their several weeks notice and be done, a good-bye wasn’t quite as simple as that. He had become an important part of the small business and the boss had future plans that included the young man. And so, he tries to find a good time to tell the boss. And like always, it seems like it’s never a good time. He didn’t want to give the bad news even though he had to do it.  Like a break-up, one party usually does not expect it. And this would be the same. The young man wondered how he would react but at the end of the day, it had to be done.

This is the end of that story. I’m not sure if there was a meaning I wanted to share but perhaps it is this one…

Friends, girl-friends, boy-friends, work relationships… it doesn’t matter. Breaking up is hard to do.  But sometimes we have to choose to move on from something good for a chance at something even better. If you never try, you will never know.

Relationship breakups probably still reign king in the emotional department though


5 thoughts on “Breaking up is hard to do

  1. OMG I feel gutted… all those double meanings are just WRONG!!! And I have never used any of them. I am just too honest… LOL

  2. This is very true…breakups suck, but we are ever changing beings.
    I had the same situation with my last boss. It was so much like a romantic relationship breakup it gave me the creeps. And never was the right time to tell him. So, I lied and said I was moving across the country and avoided the area he lived in for months after that. I wonder what that says about how I deal with real romantic breakups…

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